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I am in the 3rd grade classrooms every other Wednesday - two times a month - teaching a Counselor Lesson.  Each week, I will post the title of the Counselor Lesson and post supporting documents, if helpful to you, on this site. My weekly calendar (top right hand corner of this webpage) will give you details of what lesson is being covered in your child's classroom each week and the Roosevelt Round-Up (PTA newsletter) will also periodically give you more information.  Let me know if you need more information or have feedback on my lessons.

Lesson 1: Who is Your School Counselor?  What does your school counselor do?  Students brainstormed all that we have worked on so far and the places and reasons they might see me.  We discussed what we would be doing this year in a powerpoint and helped them remember: Mrs. Clark LISTENS to us when we need to TALK or have a QUESTION.  She HELPS us HELP ourselves. What are Potato Points - our rules for listening!  With the use of our Mr. Potato Head doll as a reminder - we discussed what good listening "looks like": eyes on the speaker, hands to ourselves, raising our hand to speak, bringing our thinking caps with our ideas and good sharing, ears for listening to others, mouth closed if others are speaking, and feet still and pointed at the speaker.  We also talked about how the 3rd grade was going -- classroom, what they were learning; playground, games and what to do; lunchroom, making healthy choices; and friendships, including others. 

Lesson 2:  We reviewed the 9 peacewheel options we use to solve conflicts at Roosevelt -- the "body raps", the 9 choices and discussed the difference between Small problems and Big problems. Those 9 choices are: walk away, share and take turns, go to another game, ignore it, make a deal, talk it out, apologize, wait and cool off, tell them to stop. We watched two videos of students solving Small and Big problems in "It's your Choice: Putting Kelso Into Play K-3 Booster" We saw: three Small problems where a student asks another student to stop annoying behavior and learn how to compromise and come up with work-able solutions; two Big problems emphasizing being safe around tricky people and when you witness stealing you immediately get an adult!  We demonstrated how to do these 9 choices the Right way and the Wrong way - ex. saying "are you done?" to someone who is doing something you don't like or a wrong way of getting angry and pushing someone when frustrated. Students are able to see other students solving problems in different ways and resolving the problem -- big problems they see adult help immediately and we reviewed the adults in our school they can get help from at any time! Next week we will extend these ideas outside of Roosevelt!

Lesson 3: Lesson 3:  Kelso has helped us learn how to solve small problems and big problems at school – but what about at home?   We watched “It's Your Choice: Kelso K-3 Beyond the Classroom” to see how they can use the peacewheel outside of Roosevelt.   The first problem we saw how a brother and sister worked out what they could watch on TV; the second problem we saw how siblings worked out name-calling; the third problem demonstrated different kids trying different solutions, especially when they are angry; and the last two problems are big problems, emphasizing getting a parent when you know you need to, even when you have broken a rule (not wearing a helmet) and checking with an adult when you are unsure of your safety (energy drink).  We talked about how these examples happen to them outside of school and how they can try these choices…or argue?? Getting along and solving conflict peacefully is always the best way!

Lesson 4: We discussed the two films we saw last time and reviewed those 9 peacewheel choices.   In these videos we saw how to resolve conflict peacefully at school and at home and today we moved into seeing how building healthy relationships require all 9 of these skills.  In the movie “Building Healthy Relationships” we discuss  Standing Up for Yourself and Fight Starters: name-calling, blaming, threatening, insulting, making demands, being sarcastic, being too physical, making fun, being mean, acting selfish & Fight-Stoppers: compromise, flip a coin/rock-paper-scissor, skip it, walk away, apologize were all used in our video.  We also worked on the “talk it out” option of the Peacewheel by discussing how important the time, place, and mood of the person influences a discussion, using “I feel” statements, good listening, and really attempting to find a good solution by brainstorming ideas that work for everyone involved!  As always, if they are not able to do this on their own – GET HELP from a trusted adult to help guide the conflict and assist you in having healthy, happy relationships!

Lesson 5:  LISTENING is something we work on in the 3rd grade! We have so much to say - so many ideas - and such great friends to talk with.....but how is talking disrupting learning?    Talking out of turn, blurting out, and interrupting another friend or teacher all cause problems in the classroom and with friends.  We played two games to help us see that listening is necessary to know what to do, hear important cues from others, and allow a large group to learn or play something together.   We played Tell Tale - a fun game where students look at a picture and they build a story around the picture they drew in the deck...very creative and silly!   Then we played Chain Reaction - a game that requires you to listen for a "cue" and then it triggers your action -- if students do not read what they need to do, listen for their cue, or are distracted from the task, the chain reaction does not happen!   We concluded with emphasizing that EVERYONE has a role in good listening in the classroom and how one person's behavior triggers others your part!  We will continue our discussion about listening next week.  

Lesson 6:  We continued our work on listening skills. I asked the students to give an example of the difference between hearing and listening - and how it feels to be heard vs. listened to by a friend, parent, or teacher. We took a quick self-assessment about their listening skills and then we watched the video "I Can Communicate". In this video, we saw the difference between hearing and listening; what good listening "looks" like; and how it feels to be in a group, in a classroom, or in a conversation with someone who is not a good listener.

Happy Thanksgiving - have a safe holiday!

Lesson 7:  We reviewed what we learned last week from our video - specifically, the difference between hearing vs. listening.   We discussed what happens when you are not a good listener - in the video there were arguments with family members and getting lost on a field trip and loosing trust with a teacher.  We resumed our video and discussed Signal Words, Eyes + Ears + Body = Good Listening, and Reflective Listening.   Students practiced all these Good Communication tips with a buddy -- sharing how to make a PB&J&Banana Sandwich.   After trying this once, a "model" group showed us what this looked like for them and then they changed partners and tried it again!   Students were challenged to work on Good Communication over the break -- can't wait to hear how it went!!

Winter Holiday – stay warm, be safe & see you in 2014!

Lesson 8: Students shared how they used their Good Communication Skills over the break -- it really works!  We are starting our Safe & Healthy Choices Unit by discussing “Danger Zones”.  We reviewed what are some of the safe and healthy choices we have discussed prior to 3rd grade - Eddie the Eagle and gun safety, Healthy Choices, Fire Safety, Safe/UnSafe choices inside our house/playground/community, Personal Space, Personal Safety, Secrets vs. Surprises, saying NO, and trusted adults/safe places. We watched "Safety: Out of the Danger Zone" that highlights how to be safe around a gun/knife, stranger, bullies/mean people, internet/on-line chat rooms, inhalants, and peer pressure. Our rule throughout this movie is the same as we have practiced since Kindergarten - Stop! Don't Touch! Leave the Area! Today we also learned about "Tricky People".   These are people that are not necessarily strangers, they may be familiar, we may know them, or they may present to know you --- they are Tricky and give you that "uh-oh" feeling in your stomach.   We watched a short clip from "Yellow Dino" where a group of kids are discussing what Tricky People are and reviewed an example of what "Tricky" could look like.  We discussed just like practicing for lock-downs and earthquakes -- they don't happen very often, but we want to be prepared if they do.  Knowing what to do with Tricky People and Situations is just as important and they know what to do -- Yello Dino teaches us the "jingle": take three steps back, take three steps back, YELL and run like the wind! **Thank you for your follow up at home on this important safety discussion.  Practice the "jingle" and continue to use that term "Tricky People" instead of "Strangers" as the data tells us harm to children happens by people they have seen before or know, not usually a total stranger. 

Lesson 9:  Another "Danger Zone" to making Safe & Healthy choices in inside that word is DANGER, without the "D" = ANGER! What is it? What does our body do and feel like when we are angry? What other emotions trigger anger -- like jealousy, embarrassment, and anxiety. What do you see your parents, teacher, family do when they are angry --- what is "constructive" and "destructive" anger management. We watched the video "Time Out on Anger" to look at those triggers and what you can do with your anger to make it constructive energy and not destructive to yourself, others, and relationships. In the video we saw and discussed four parts: Stop and Think: taking deep breaths, change thinking, counting to 10 and walking a way; Talk out your Anger: it is never ok to hurt people, break things, or yell at people -- we identified safe adults they can talk to when they feel angry; Keep Anger Inside: misunderstandings happen -- keeping it inside or drawing conclusions can lead to the problem getting worse or creating a problem that does not exist -- talking it out before you "blow" is best and pouting about your anger to get attention is not a healthy way to work out anger; Use your Angry Energy to do Something Positive: use that energy to practice harder, be extra kind or patient, or work toward a goal. We concluded our lesson today with a go-around of what they can do with their anger that works for them! Knowing Anger is an emotion we all have -- but making sure they know what to do with it in a constructive way is their important choice!  **We celebrated our Good Listening Points from 1st semester with a Potato Party - great work 3rd graders, both classes earned their reward!

Lesson 10: We've set the ground-work and they have done the "book-work" in class – great posters in the halls! - so we watched how Jack, Skye and Trevor make Healthy Choices in "If you don't take care of your body, where else are you going to live!"  Here is the summary of what we watched: It is Field Day at James Tovar Middle School is supposed to be fun. However, for Jack, Skye, and Darryl, it turns out to be everything but fun. Skye could not finish the jump rope rally, Jack could barely climb one foot up the rock-climbing wall, and Darryl was absolutely no competition for Hogarth in the 100-yard dash. Stunned, embarrassed and a little confused, our three competitors look to Trevor to find out what exactly happened at the field day games. Coach Trevor Romain issues a 30-day fitness challenge to Jack and his buddies while explaining to them the importance of a healthy lifestyle. During the challenge, they learn that physical activity and healthy eating habits are not only good for you but fun as well. Jack, Skye and Darryl prove to Coach Trevor, and more importantly to themselves, that taking better care of your body improves the quality of your life and your performance in school and on the field. We discussed what they do to take care of their body -- physically and mentally. We discussed how they are active -- lacrosse, swimming, bike riding, and even jogging with their parents on the weekend were shared! We discussed how they exercise their mind -- things like puzzles, yoga, reading, board games, and journaling were shared as ideas. Finding time to take care of their body is their responsibility -- and they discussed what they needed to do to step up their physical or mental activity to make sure their body is a great place to "live" for a long time!

Lesson 11: Jack and the Crew taught us some important lessons last week about taking care of yourself- it's your body and your responsibility!   We practiced these ideas we learned in the video by using Healthy Habits Fortune Tellers and trying out lots of fun ideas with a friend using this tool.  The exercise and sleep are easy for this group --- making healthy eating choices is a tougher one for some as there are so many temptations out there....especially now as one student said "It's girl scout cookie season!"  We re-enforced what they discussed in class regarding a Healthy "plate" and getting all the food groups into their diet on a daily basis....they can do it!

Lesson 12: BINGO.  Reviewing all that they have learned and introducing some other “Danger Zone” terms in Drug Awareness Bingo, As we played our Bingo game we discussed our Safe & Healthy Choices vocabulary like nicotine, tar, 1 in 10, addicted, alcohol, yellow teeth, friends, cancer, prescription drugs, over-the-counter drugs.   A fun way to discuss such important information about the choices and consequences of these “danger zones” for them know and in their future!

Lesson 13: So - How are we different? How are we the same? Is your Best Friend just like the same things, play the same things, like the same foods? We introduced our next topic by playing the game "Eye to Eye". Through this fun game, students experience that their answers were NEVER always the same as their friends and they take some pride in what UNIQUE choices, likes/dislikes, and preferences they have --- so if this is what they do in our game, why do we say things like: you aren't good enough to play this soccer game with us OR she can't be my friend because she dresses weird OR he is a sissy and doesn't do "guy" stuff?? Self-respect, uniqueness, appreciation of differences and tolerance were discussed in this lesson. 

Spring Break - enjoy & be safe!

Lesson 14: Although we read the book last year, we have many new 3rd grade faces – so we watched the book “Mahalia Goes to College” come alive on screen and be read by the author, John Lithgow.  We followed Mahalia, a mouse who leaves her impoverished family behind to search for food. She finds herself interested in a science course after accidentally ending up in a Harvard classroom in a student's backpack. Her diligence and intelligence win the professor's support, and she goes on to complete four years of study. She graduates, thus ending this story of stout self-reliance.  A wonderful story of a mouse who set forth on life's bumpy trail and succeeded by simply refusing to fail!  As we read they listened for “college” vocabulary like Undergraduate, Bachelor’s Degree, Major, and Diploma -  we discussed and talked about what Mahalia experienced that her family did not as she found her way to college   In preparation for our upcoming tour at Boise State University, we looked at a Campus Map and discussed what buildings are on Campus and why those building exist on a College Camps – Programs of Study, Clubs & Sporting Activities, Places for students to live and eat, etc.   On Friday, we will watch “Monster’s University” as a fun way of continuing our discussion about College and “Going On.”  **You can find the go-on clips we watched at and the book clip at    **This book and MU is available for checkout in our library in the Counselor resources.

Lesson 15: What is a dorm? major? bachelor's degree? student union building? campus life? Scare School ---- yes, Scare School!   We watched Monsters University and followed Mike Wazowski, Sulli, and the crew as they pursued their dreams at MU.   As we watched the film, we discussed the different parts of "college" and will take what we saw in our film and look for these same things on our field trip to BSU.  Additionally, we had some "cheers" while we watched the movie:  when they heard Monsters University in the movie they chanted "U, U, U" - Major "Maaaaaaaajor" - Dream "You can Do It!!".   Topped off with snacks and lots of giggles -- fun times were also had while we learned about "going on!" 

Lesson 16: Students were given some Homework last week from me to complete with parents about the people they know, where they went to college, and what they studied.   We reviewed the homework they were given, discussed what they learned and what they might explore further as a result of these discussions at home.  Then we explored the Monster's University Campus and the Boise State University Campus using their Campus Maps --- student were looking for what was the same? what was different?   Through this discussion, they found that both Maps have the common buildings we discussed in the movie --- Dorms, Athletic Facilities, Program Buildings - like College of Engineering, Cafeteria or Student Union Building, Quad.   We discussed what the purpose of these buildings where on campus and how we are going to see the BSU campus LIVE on Wednesday!  We also talked about how College fits into what they will study in JH and HS someday….They will match their interests and dreams to what they want to study --- just like Sulli and Mike!  

Lesson 17: We are Going to College!  We are headed out on our much anticipated Field Trip to Boise State University to check out in-person all this College "stuff" we have been talking about!   In small groups, student completed a scavenger hunt finding and exploring different parts of the BSU campus.  We met in a Chemistry Class where we heard all about College Classes and the importance of learning now in Elementary School to prepare for College in their Future!   We ate our lunches in the SUB so they can experience the "fun" on campus for students and headed back to Roosevelt.  Thank you to the parents who helped out to make this experience meaningful for our students!

Lesson 18: We went to College & we covered 6.2 miles in 4 hours  -- wow, what a Field Trip!   We talked about the Scavenger Hunt  -- what did they see, what did they find, what did they like/dislike about our BSU tour?  We discussed the Chemistry Class we attended and how every "major" has Professors and Labs just like the one they explored with Dr. Pickelstein.   "Hanging out" at the SUB and eating lunch also showed us the movement of students on campus -- we discussed how college is not only about academics, but also many social, cultural, and athletic experiences!  Students completed a reflection about what they learned -- check out the Bulletin Board in the 3rd grade hall for their thoughts and photos!

Have a great summer - stay safe, keep learning, and record those experiences to share with us in August!

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Wendi Ellis-Clark, School Counselor
Boise School District - Roosevelt Elementary
908 E. Jefferson Street
Boise, Idaho 83712
208-854-6030 (phone) 208-854-6031 (fax)