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I am in the 3rd grade classrooms every other Wednesday - two times a month - teaching a Counselor Lesson.  Each week, I will post the title of the Counselor Lesson and post supporting documents, if helpful to you, on this site. This link will give you details of my lessons and the Roosevelt Round-Up (PTA newsletter) will also periodically give you more information.  "Counselor Conversation Cards" will also come home throughout the year to encourage discussion about our lessons in your home.  Let me know if you need more information or have feedback on my lessons.

Lesson 1: Who is Your School Counselor?  We toured our building noticing all the Bulletin Boards Mrs. Clark has made for them to help them get to know Roosevelt -- New Student Pictures, Recess Games & Rules, Peacewheel Board highlighting Peace-makers and Peace-breakers at our school, and Roosevelt Staff Picture Board.   As we toured each stop, we discussed how they can see these through October to make sure they know all the new students in our school, the rules and options on our Playground, how we solve problems or conflicts at Roosevelt, and all the adults in our school they can ask for help if they needed or know their names like we know them!   We then made our way to my classroom where we discussed "What does your school counselor do?" Students brainstormed all that we have worked on so far and the places and reasons they might see me.  We discussed what we would be doing this year in a powerpoint and helped them remember: Mrs. Clark LISTENS to us when we need to TALK or have a QUESTION.  She HELPS us HELP ourselves and make GOOD choices! What are Potato Points - our rules for listening!  With the use of our Mr. Potato Head doll as a reminder - we discussed what good listening "looks like": eyes on the speaker, hands to ourselves, raising our hand to speak, bringing our thinking caps with our ideas and good sharing, ears for listening to others, mouth closed if others are speaking, and feet still and pointed at the speaker.  We also talked about how the 3rd grade was going -- classroom, what they were learning; playground, games and what to do; lunchroom, making healthy choices; and friendships, including others. 

Lesson 2: We reviewed the 9 peacewheel options we use to solve conflicts at Roosevelt -- the "body raps", the 9 choices and discussed the difference between Small problems and Big problems. Those 9 choices are: walk away, share and take turns, go to another game, ignore it, make a deal, talk it out, apologize, wait and cool off, tell them to stop. We watched two videos of students solving Small and Big problems in "It's your Choice: Putting Kelso Into Play K-3 Booster" We saw: three Small problems where a student asks another student to stop annoying behavior and learn how to compromise and come up with work-able solutions; two Big problems emphasizing being safe around tricky people and when you witness stealing you immediately get an adult!  We demonstrated how to do these 9 choices the Right way and the Wrong way - ex. saying "are you done?" to someone who is doing something you don't like or a wrong way of getting angry and pushing someone when frustrated. Students are able to see other students solving problems in different ways and resolving the problem -- big problems they see adult help immediately and we reviewed the adults in our school they can get help from at any time! Next week we will extend these ideas outside of Roosevelt!

Lesson 4:  We discussed the Kelso clips we saw last time and reviewed those 9 Peacewheel choices.   In these videos we saw how to resolve conflict peacefully at school and at home and today we moved into seeing how building healthy relationships require all 9 of these skills.  In the movie “Building Healthy Relationships” we discuss standing up for yourself and fight starters: name-calling, blaming, threatening, insulting, making demands, being sarcastic, being too physical, making fun, being mean, acting selfish & Fight-Stoppers: compromise, flip a coin/rock-paper-scissor, skip it, walk away, apologize were all used in our video.  We also worked on the “talk it out” option of the Peacewheel by discussing how important the time, place, and mood of the person influences a discussion, using “I feel” statements, good listening, and really attempting to find a good solution by brainstorming ideas that work for everyone involved!  As always, if they are not able to do this on their own – GET HELP from a trusted adult to help guide the conflict and assist you in having healthy, happy relationships!

**Parent/Teacher Conferences --- your students are doing so well!  I look forward to reading all the report card comments and connecting with them on their progress!

Lesson 5: LISTENING is something we work on in the 3rd grade! We have so much to say - so many ideas - and such great friends to talk with.....but how is talking disrupting learning?    Talking out of turn, blurting out, and interrupting another friend or teacher all cause problems in the classroom and with friends.  We played two games to help us see that listening is necessary to know what to do, hear important cues from others, and allow a large group to learn or play something together.   We played Tell Tale - a fun game where students look at a picture and they build a story around the picture they drew in the deck...very creative and silly!   Then we played Chain Reaction - a game that requires you to listen for a "cue" and then it triggers your action -- if students do not read what they need to do, listen for their cue, or are distracted from the task, the chain reaction does not happen!   We concluded with emphasizing that EVERYONE has a role in good listening in the classroom and how one person's behavior triggers others your part!  We will continue our discussion about listening next week.  

Lesson 6: We continued our work on listening skills. I asked the students to give an example of the difference between hearing and listening - and how it feels to be heard vs. listened to by a friend, parent, or teacher. We took a quick self-assessment about their listening skills and then we watched the video "I Can Communicate". In this video, we saw the difference between hearing and listening; what good listening "looks" like; and how it feels to be in a group, in a classroom, or in a conversation with someone who is not a good listener.

Happy Thanksgiving - I am so Thankful I work with your child every day!

Lesson 7: Students were challenged in our last lesson to try out those good listening skills – specifically, repeating what they heard mom/dad say at home.  It was fun to hear their successes with this technique and how listening is different than hearing!  We reviewed what we learned last week from our video - specifically, the difference between hearing vs. listening.   We discussed what happens when you are not a good listener - in the video there were arguments with family members and getting lost on a field trip and loosing trust with a teacher.  Student showed me the good listening formula: Eyes + Ears + Body = Good Listening.  The described those signal words they hear from their teachers, parents, and friends.  Today, we practiced that important skill of Reflective Listening.   Teaming up with a buddy, they had to describe how to make a PB&J&Banana Sandwich.   After trying this once, a "model" group showed us what this looked like for them and then they changed partners and tried it again!  

Lesson 8:  We are starting our Safe & Healthy Choices Unit by discussing “Danger Zones”.  We reviewed what are some of the safe and healthy choices we have discussed prior to 3rd grade - Eddie the Eagle and gun safety, Healthy Choices, Fire Safety, Safe/UnSafe choices inside our house/playground/community, Personal Space, Personal Safety, Secrets vs. Surprises, saying NO, and trusted adults/safe places. We watched "Safety: Out of the Danger Zone" that highlights how to be safe around a gun/knife, stranger, bullies/mean people, internet/on-line chat rooms, inhalants, and peer pressure. Our rule throughout this movie is the same as we have practiced since Kindergarten - Stop! Don't Touch! Leave the Area! Today we also learned about "Tricky People".   These are people that are not necessarily strangers, they may be familiar, we may know them, or they may present to know you --- they are Tricky and give you that "uh-oh" feeling in your stomach.   We watched a short clip from "Yellow Dino" where a group of kids are discussing what Tricky People are and reviewed an example of what "Tricky" could look like.  We discussed just like practicing for lock-downs and earthquakes -- they don't happen very often, but we want to be prepared if they do.  Knowing what to do with Tricky People and Situations is just as important and they know what to do -- Yello Dino teaches us the "jingle": take three steps back, take three steps back, YELL and run like the wind! **Thank you for your follow up at home on this important safety discussion.  Practice the "jingle" and continue to use that term "Tricky People" instead of "Strangers" as the data tells us harm to children happens by people they have seen before or know, not usually a total stranger.  We closed with reading the book "The Trouble with Secrets"  What is a secret?  We discussed the difference between good secrets -- I call them surprises -- and "bad" secrets -- secrets that make us feel uncomfortable "holding" from someone else or not sharing.  The book explores the differences and the need to ALWAYS talk with an adult when you get the uncomfortable feeling about a secret or the right to say "No, I don't keep secrets" to anyone!   **This book is available for checkout in our counselor library!

Lesson 9:  Hunting Season is open -- a Career Fair Scavenger Hunt, that is!  Our fifth graders selected one Job and prepared a poster or multi-media presentation, complete with pictures, props, and tools to represent the important points of their selected Job to present to our 2nd & 3rd graders.  Jobs like: Engineer, Baker, Chamist, Fashion Designer, Singer, Actor, Teacher....and the list goes on and on were represented at our Career Fair!  (see pictures on my Website under School Counseling Program Pictures) Using the Career Fair Scavenger Hunt Document (see attachment below) they learned about Jobs that use Science, Math, Art, work Outside or Inside, and much more!   In our lesson, students shared what they learned from their Scavenger Hunt sheets and we discussed questions like: Why do people work?  How important is it to do a job that you enjoy in life?  If everyone has unique skills and talents, how are they going to match these to a future job?  Amazing ideas, A-ha experiences, and "I want to know more about" moments were had today!  Thank you 5th graders for a GREAT job with our Career Fair!

Have a Safe & Healthy Holiday & New Year!

Lesson 10: This year is going to be Awesome!  With the help of Kid President and the book "Squirrel's New Year's Resolution"  we discussed why people set goals or make resolutions.  In our book, Squirrel knows that New Year's Day is a great day for making resolutions! But what does it mean to make a resolution, anyway? As she makes visits around the forest she learns about New Year's resolutions and helps her friends get started on theirs. Kid President encourages us to think about how we can make the new year better for others with some fun suggestions.  Check out the video:  Students thought about the new year and a resolution or goal they might have - all students shared one idea they gave me as they left our lesson!  **We also reviewed their Career Fair Scavenger Hunts --   I loved hearing what they loved, careers they found that used their favorite subjects like math, and thinking about where they might like to work like in a hospital or by the ocean!   

Lesson 11: We are back into our Safe & Healthy Choices Unit and I love what I am seeing and hearing on the playground with our 3rd grade students using our Peacewheel!   Now its time for us to learn about our "meters" - Emotional Meters!   Using the language of color, students labeled, colored, and explored their very own emotional meter.  We will work more next week with their meters and send home an assignment to help you explore this new tool we use at Roosevelt and you can use in your home!  What color are you on? 

Lesson 12: We celebrated our good listening with a potato chip party - and then concluded our lesson by completing our  "meter" lesson from last week and exploring how our Inside Triggers, Outside Triggers, and our Self-Talk contribute to our ability to stay on Blue.   Students broke into small groups and completed meter work to help reflect on these tools!

Lesson 13:  Still in the "Danger Zone", but this week we go inside the word DANGER, without the "D" = ANGER! What is it? What does our body do and feel like when we are angry? What other emotions trigger anger -- like jealousy, embarrassment, and anxiety. What do you see your parents, teacher, family do when they are angry --- what is "constructive" and "destructive" anger management. We watched the video "Time Out on Anger" to look at those triggers and what you can do with your anger to make it constructive energy and not destructive to yourself, others, and relationships. In the video we saw and discussed four parts: Stop and Think: taking deep breaths, change thinking, counting to 10 and walking a way; Talk out your Anger: it is never ok to hurt people, break things, or yell at people -- we identified safe adults they can talk to when they feel angry; Keep Anger Inside: misunderstandings happen -- keeping it inside or drawing conclusions can lead to the problem getting worse or creating a problem that does not exist -- talking it out before you "blow" is best and pouting about your anger to get attention is not a healthy way to work out anger; Use your Angry Energy to do Something Positive: use that energy to practice harder, be extra kind or patient, or work toward a goal. We concluded our lesson today with a go-around of what they can do with their anger that works for them and helps them get to BLUE! Knowing Anger is an emotion we all have -- but making sure they know what to do with it in a constructive way is their important choice!  

Lesson 14: Wrapping up our Emotional Meter work by reflecting on all the colors and what they feel like, what are our triggers, how we can control our meters, and what situations do we find hard to control our emotions and use our tools.   In teams students worked on our Meter Reflections -- see them in the hall across from the Cafeteria!

Lesson 15: We watched the book “Mahalia Goes to College” come alive on screen and be read by the author, John Lithgow.  We followed Mahalia, a mouse who leaves her impoverished family behind to search for food. She finds herself interested in a science course after accidentally ending up in a Harvard classroom in a student's backpack. Her diligence and intelligence win the professor's support, and she goes on to complete four years of study. She graduates, thus ending this story of stout self-reliance.  A wonderful story of a mouse who set forth on life's bumpy trail and succeeded by simply refusing to fail!  As we read they listened for “college” vocabulary like Undergraduate, Bachelor’s Degree, Major, and Diploma -  we discussed and talked about what Mahalia experienced that her family did not as she found her way to college   In preparation for our upcoming tour at Boise State University, students were given a homework assignment to complete with a parent about colleges -- where did the people around them (mom, dad, aunt, neighbor, friend) go to college? where was it located? what did they study?  Students completed work can be found in the halls  -- check out the Bulletin Board in the 3rd grade hall for their thoughts and photos all about "going on!"  Note: BSU is one of thousands of options --- explore college campuses so they can have those experiences to reference when it comes time to decide where their paths will lead after high school!  Can’t wait for our field trip in April!  You can find the go-on clips we watched at and the book clip at    **This book is available for checkout in our library in the Counselor resources.

SPRING BREAK - enjoy your week off!

Lesson 16:  Thank you to our PTA for partnering with our School Counseling Program to host the Mobile STEM Lab and Assembly! gives a truly unique and hands-on experience so students can dive into science, technology, engineering, and math. The STEM Mobile Discovery Lab is equipped with the latest technologies, enabling students to learn and explore all things STEM! Students saw drones, robots, explosions, and more!  They also experienced high-end, hands-on tools like virtual reality, circuitry and much, much more! All school assembly at 9:00am with classrooms rotating through the bus and hands-on experiences throughout the day.   From 3:15pm to 4:00pm the STEMbus will stay after school for parents and students to explore together and learn more about summer camp opportunities. 

Lesson 17 & 18: What is a dorm? major? bachelor's degree? student union building? campus life? Scare School ---- yes, Scare School!   We watched Monsters University and followed Mike Wazowski, Sulli, and the crew as they pursued their dreams at MU.   As we watched the film, we discussed the different parts of "college" and will take what we saw in our film and look for these same things on our field trip to BSU in April. Additionally, we had some "cheers" while we watched the movie:  when they heard Monsters University in the movie they chanted "U, U, U" - Major "Maaaaaaaajor" - Dream "You can Do It!!".   Topped off with snacks and lots of giggles -- fun times were also had while we learned about "going on!" 

Lesson 19:  We are Going to College!  We are headed out on our much anticipated Field Trip to Boise State University to check out in-person all this College "stuff" we have been talking about!   In small groups, student completed a scavenger hunt finding and exploring different parts of the BSU campus.  We met in a Chemistry Class where we heard all about College Classes and the importance of learning now in Elementary School to prepare for College in their Future!   We ate our lunches in the SUB so they can experience the "fun" on campus for students and headed back to Roosevelt.  Thank you to the parents who helped out to make this experience meaningful for our students!

Lesson 20: We went to College & we covered a lot of territory in a few hours  -- wow, what a Field Trip!   We talked about the Scavenger Hunt  -- what did they see, what did they find, what did they like/dislike about our BSU tour?  We discussed the Chemistry Class we attended and how every "major" has Professors and Labs just like the one they explored in the SUB.   "Hanging out" at the SUB and eating lunch also showed us the movement of students on campus -- we discussed how college is not only about academics, but also many social, cultural, and athletic experiences! 

Have a great summer - stay safe, keep learning, and record those experiences to share with us in August!

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Wendi Ellis-Clark, School Counselor
Boise School District - Roosevelt Elementary
908 E. Jefferson Street
Boise, Idaho 83712
208-854-6030 (phone) 208-854-6031 (fax)