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I am in the 3rd grade classrooms every other Wednesday - two times a month - teaching a Counselor Lesson.  Each week, I will post the title of the Counselor Lesson and post supporting documents, if helpful to you, on this site. This link will give you details of my lessons and the Roosevelt Round-Up (PTA newsletter) will also periodically give you more information.  "Counselor Conversation Cards" will also come home throughout the year to encourage discussion about our lessons in your home.  Let me know if you need more information or have feedback on my lessons.

Lesson 1: Who is Your School Counselor?  We toured our building noticing all the Bulletin Boards Mrs. Clark has made for them to help them get to know Roosevelt -- New Student Pictures, Recess Games & Rules, Peacewheel Board highlighting Peace-makers and Peace-breakers at our school, and Roosevelt Staff Picture Board.   As we toured each stop, we discussed how they can see these through October to make sure they know all the new students in our school, the rules and options on our Playground, how we solve problems or conflicts at Roosevelt, and all the adults in our school they can ask for help if they needed or know their names like we know them!   We then made our way to my classroom where we discussed "What does your school counselor do?" Students brainstormed all that we have worked on so far and the places and reasons they might see me.  We discussed what we would be doing this year in a powerpoint and helped them remember: Mrs. Clark LISTENS to us when we need to TALK or have a QUESTION.  She HELPS us HELP ourselves and make GOOD choices! What are Potato Points - our rules for listening!  With the use of our Mr. Potato Head doll as a reminder - we discussed what good listening "looks like": eyes on the speaker, hands to ourselves, raising our hand to speak, bringing our thinking caps with our ideas and good sharing, ears for listening to others, mouth closed if others are speaking, and feet still and pointed at the speaker.  We also talked about how the 3rd grade was going -- classroom, what they were learning; playground, games and what to do; lunchroom, making healthy choices; and friendships, including others. 

Lesson 2: We reviewed the 9 peacewheel options we use to solve conflicts at Roosevelt -- the "body raps", the 9 choices and discussed the difference between Small problems and Big problems. Those 9 choices are: walk away, share and take turns, go to another game, ignore it, make a deal, talk it out, apologize, wait and cool off, tell them to stop. We watched two videos of students solving Small and Big problems in "It's your Choice: Putting Kelso Into Play K-3 Booster" We saw: three Small problems where a student asks another student to stop annoying behavior and learn how to compromise and come up with work-able solutions; two Big problems emphasizing being safe around tricky people and when you witness stealing you immediately get an adult!  We demonstrated how to do these 9 choices the Right way and the Wrong way - ex. saying "are you done?" to someone who is doing something you don't like or a wrong way of getting angry and pushing someone when frustrated. Students are able to see other students solving problems in different ways and resolving the problem -- big problems they see adult help immediately and we reviewed the adults in our school they can get help from at any time! Next week we will extend these ideas outside of Roosevelt!

Lesson 3: What is an Emotional Meter?  Today we created their own Emotional Meter as a tool for helping them manage their emotions and recognizing how they have choices, triggers, and responses to control their behaviors.   Next week we will explore the "triggers" - internal and external, emotions - naming and scaling by color, and being able to identify individual "blue" calm activities to know how they are in charge of their emotions and meters.  *I have more resources in the Counselor Lending Library ready for check-out if you would like more information!  Also, thank you to Janet Kaufman, Roosevelt parent and author of the Grump Meter for her collaborative work on this effort at Roosevelt.  Check out her work at

Lesson 4: Calm Book

Lesson 5:  We discussed the Kelso clips we saw a few weeks ago and reviewed those 9 Peacewheel choices.   In these videos we saw how to resolve conflict peacefully at school and at home and today we moved into seeing how building healthy relationships require all 9 of these skills.  In the movie “Building Healthy Relationships” we discuss standing up for yourself and fight starters: name-calling, blaming, threatening, insulting, making demands, being sarcastic, being too physical, making fun, being mean, acting selfish & Fight-Stoppers: compromise, flip a coin/rock-paper-scissor, skip it, walk away, apologize were all used in our video.  We also worked on the “talk it out” option of the Peacewheel by discussing how important the time, place, and mood of the person influences a discussion, using “I feel” statements, good listening, and really attempting to find a good solution by brainstorming ideas that work for everyone involved!  As always, if they are not able to do this on their own – GET HELP from a trusted adult to help guide the conflict and assist you in having healthy, happy relationships!

Happy Thanksgiving! 

Lesson 6: LISTENING is something we work on in the 3rd grade! We have so much to say - so many ideas - and such great friends to talk with.....but how is talking disrupting learning?    Talking out of turn, blurting out, and interrupting another friend or teacher all cause problems in the classroom and with friends.  We played two games to help us see that listening is necessary to know what to do, hear important cues from others, and allow a large group to learn or play something together.   We played Tell Tale - a fun game where students look at a picture and they build a story around the picture they drew in the deck...very creative and silly!   Then we played Chain Reaction - a game that requires you to listen for a "cue" and then it triggers your action -- if students do not read what they need to do, listen for their cue, or are distracted from the task, the chain reaction does not happen!   We concluded with emphasizing that EVERYONE has a role in good listening in the classroom and how one person's behavior triggers others your part!  We will continue our discussion about listening next week.  

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Wendi Ellis-Clark, School Counselor
Boise School District - Roosevelt Elementary
908 E. Jefferson Street
Boise, Idaho 83712
208-854-6030 (phone) 208-854-6031 (fax)

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